This is a question that MANY people ask ME!
The short answer is – I don’t.
My incredible husband does all sorts of things BESIDES being the Dean of the University of Redlands School of Music. He does just about all the shopping (except fabric of course!) and most of the cooking. Oh, and all the gardening…I used to help with that, but no more. And of course, we live in Southern CA which means things grow 12 months a year. And he’s a handyman extraordinaire, so he fixes most of what breaks around here, as well as build me stuff. Did I mention he’s the principal trombone of the Redlands Symphony, and he’ll be playing a concerto with them on Nov 1st? He is an incredible human being.
My 2 wonderful boys, at 7 & 11 are relatively self sufficient, and do quite well at playing together. Homework could probably be done quicker, and dirty clothes could go into the hamper without umpteen reminders, but they are great kids, and it all gets done in the end.
I hire a house cleaner who comes twice a month. Without this I would go insane. nuff said.
All this allows me time to make things. But I also teach at the University of Redlands (intro Biology classes for non-majors), and the start of every school year just wipes me out. Combine that with the stress of 2-3 upcoming shows, and I’ve been a wreck for the past 3 weeks. I have so many things I want to make, and not nearly enough time! I work towards balancing all these things, and I haven’t found that optimal combination yet. But I keep trying.